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Liz Pinon-Sosa

Ghosting

Since its spooky season, lets talk about ghosting. Ghosting can feel a bit like a “spooky” experience in relationships. In a way, it’s like a social ghost, haunting someone with silence as they just disappear from your life without a word. This can make you feel confused, hurt, and burdened by unanswered questions, like a mystery you can’t solve.


Ghosting also happens frequently online. Someone might stop texting or responding on social media with no explanation. Let's explore how this affects people emotionally and talk about the haunting nature of ghosting.




Here are some signs that you’ve been ghosted:

 

●      Sudden silence: The person stops responding to messages, calls, or any form of contact.

●     No follow-up or commitment: Plans may have been left in limbo, and they fail to follow through without any reason or notice.

●      Disengagement: They avoid interactions, including on social media, and may even unfriend or block you.

 

Should we reach out after we have been Ghosted?

 

Continuing to reach out after being ghosted can be harmful for a few reasons:

 

  1. Emotional toll: Repeatedly trying to connect with someone who has chosen to end the relationship can increase feelings of rejection and frustration.

  2. Lack of respect for boundaries: If someone has ghosted, they are effectively setting a boundary. Ignoring this might push them further away or worsen the situation.

  3. Hindering healing: Continuing to seek closure or answers can prevent you from moving on, prolonging emotional distress.

 

Understanding ghosting as a sign of disinterest or avoidance can help you focus on relationships where communication and respect are mutual.

 

Is it okay to Ghost someone?

 

Ghosting someone can be hurtful and cause emotional distress. Here are reasons why ghosting isn’t a healthy or respectful way to end a relationship:

 

  1. Lack of closure: When you ghost someone, they are left without understanding what went wrong. This can lead to confusion, self-doubt, and prolonged emotional pain as they try to figure out what happened.

  2.  Avoidance of responsibility: Ghosting is a way to avoid uncomfortable conversations, but it denies both people the opportunity to resolve misunderstandings or end things maturely.

  3. Disrespectful of feelings: It dismisses the other person’s emotions and shows a lack of empathy. Even if the relationship isn’t working out, communicating this respectfully honors the connection.

  4. Reinforces negative behavior: Ghosting normalizes avoidance as a solution, which can harm not only the person being ghosted but also the one doing the ghosting. It promotes unhealthy communication patterns for future relationships.

  5. Damages reputation: If people come to know you as someone who ghosts, it may affect how others perceive you, and it can harm your social and professional relationships.

 


Instead of ghosting, it’s better to have an honest, respectful conversation to end the relationship, which fosters growth and allows both people to move on.



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