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Cracking the Code: Understanding Modern Dating Lingo, from Zombing to Kitten Fishing & Love Bombing

Updated: 6 days ago

Written by: Vanessa Rodarte BA., RBT., PEERS Certified

Welcome back to our Blog! We're on a mission to help you crack the code on all of the funky modern dating lingo. Even if you haven't dated and are simply just curious, or perhaps you are someone who has experienced the negative side of someone who has been on the giving end, you may have stumbled upon these terms without realizing it. Have you ever heard of Zombing? What about kitten fishing? Or even love bombing? Some of these terms can leave us scratching our heads, wondering what they mean, and even curious about who came up with them?

By understanding dating lingo, it can help empower you in recognizing warning signs in either your own experiences, those of others, and can help with making informed decisions when it comes to dating. So. . . let's get into this and crack the code!

Kitten fishing

Why did the kitten go on a fishing date? Because it wanted to try out its purr-suasive “kitten fishing” skills.

Kitten Fishing is a less severe form of catfishing, involving the persuasive act of making yourself appear more desirable in online dating apps by using old or edited photos or by misrepresenting yourself in your profile description.

Tip: When it comes to your own profile, being authentic and honest when dating is key! With others' profiles, approach it with caution and keep in mind that the person that you are connecting with may not be exactly as they appear.

Love bombing

Why did the Love bomber become a runner? Because they wanted to sprint into their partner's heart.

Love bombers are all about overwhelming someone with attention, adoration, and grand gestures of affection in the early stages of a relationship. This happens around the first or second date to try to control and manipulate the person.

Tip: Remember, Dating isn’t a race, it's all about pacing yourself to get to know someone on a deeper level. By taking your time, It will allow for a healthier and genuine connection to develop. With Love bombing, Keep an eye out for manipulative tactics to protect yourself. Enter a relationship based on mutual respect and authentic feelings.


Why did the ghost become a relationship expert? Because they had a PhD in disappearing!

Ghosting is ending a relationship with someone by suddenly and without explanation disappearing and withdrawing all communication.

Tip: Ghosting says more about the person doing the ghosting than it does you. With relationships, open and honest communication is necessary and it's respectful to communicate feelings and intentions, rather than abruptly disappearing. By treating others with kindness and empathy, we can create healthier and more enjoyable dating experiences for everyone.


Why did the zombie start zombieing? Because after being ghosted, he decided to give his ex a taste of her own medicine.

Zombeing is known for starting off with ghosting, where someone abruptly cuts off all communication but then suddenly gets in contact weeks or months later as if coming back from the dead.

Tip: With zombieing, It's important to approach the situation with caution and consider whether reconnecting with this person is truly in your best interest. Remember to prioritize relationships that are built on mutual respect and clear communication, helping to create healthier connections.


Why did the ghost turn into a social media stalker? Because they discovered that haunting someone online was a way to stay connected!

Haunting is when you have been ghosted and that person from your past continues to follow you on social media. They will sporadically like or comment on your posts, despite no longer being a part of your life.

Tip: With haunting, it's important to determine if this behavior aligns with your own boundaries and emotional well-being. Set clear boundaries and if necessary, consider blocking them on your social media accounts, so you can hangout in a healthy online environment.


Why did the magician become a master of stashing? Because he knew the secret to keeping his girlfriend hidden, it was an illusion all along!

Stashing is when someone is happy to spend time with you one-on-one, but never introduces you to their friends or family.

Tip: Healthy relationships involve openness, trust and including one another in each other's social circle. It's important to communicate your needs and expectations and if your partner is unwilling to introduce you to their friends or family, this may be a red flag. Don't settle and seek relationships where you are valued and included!

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